Monday Morning Mindfulness: Becoming BOLD in our BrokennessMarch 28, 2016
When we run or exercise we are tearing our muscle tissue and breaking it down so that the muscle can then repair those tears and become stronger. If you’ve ever gotten out of bed the day after a hard workout and felt broken in places you didn’t know existed or hurt in ways you didn’t know possible, then you know exactly what I’m talking about.
It’s no different when we endure painful experiences in our lives. Seasons of heartache can leave our minds, our bodies, and our souls torn, so much so that there are times it can feel like there’s no way we’ll be able to repair the damage that’s been done. But just like when we run, we’re wired to come back from that hurt stronger. We come back different. And not only different but better, even bolder versions of ourselves.
To me, being bold is about showing up — just as we are — offering the best that we have in that moment of our lives for those around us, regardless of our circumstances. Here are some simple ways we can focus on being bold today or this week:
- Ask for help. I used to think that if I could just grit my teeth hard enough for long enough, I could make it through just about anything. I was raised in a family where you white knuckle your way through pain. When you fall, you pick yourself back up, and if you’re hurt, you rub some dirt on it, get over it, and move on. Don’t get me wrong. I’m thankful for the grit this ethic has given me, but over time I’ve found that there is just so much more strength in the humility and courage it takes to say, “I can’t do this on my own.”
- Listen to your body. Our bodies are pretty incredible. They have evolved with such precision that they’re able to signal to us when we need to slow down, speed up, or stay put. Unlike anything else, our bodies keep a perfect tally of all our choices, both good and bad, remembering the things that even our minds forget. But only when we are willing to stop for a second and take a deep breath (or two), focusing on the out breath which activates our parasympathetic nervous system, are we able to relax enough to tap into some of the wisdom it’s trying to offer.
- Be grateful for what you have TODAY. I know, this statement has kind of become a cliché. But it’s true. When we train our mind to simply appreciate what we have in the here and now, we are less likely to ruminate on the mistakes of the past or get anxious about the unknowns of the future. This practice rewires our brains to find the beauty in the midst of our brokenness, allowing us to truly live out a story that is honest and uniquely our own — a story that is BOLD.